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Melanie Kimball's avatar

Well broken down and presented (for me). "Often" & "Many" is a helpful start (for me). "We" need to parse? Yup. We who chose to subscribe & read need to, so I'm OK w/ that "we". "We all have complicated lives"? Nah. There are some who are sleepwalking through life. But again, perhaps all your kind readers all complicate our lives with deeper thinking.

Agree w/ the complete collection of a day's experiences & deletion, distortion & generalization. Didn't realize it 30+ years ago, but dinner table question to my 3 kids wasn't "How was your day?". We asked for high point and low point. It was daunting for us to resist deleting, distorting & generalizing; perhaps impossible.

Your using the upstream insanity of the lockdown was (for me) very useful. Who among us escaped that universal insanity? Slogans like "Trust the Science", indeed slogans in general were everywhere (in my experience). For example, there were no less than 120 yard signs praising hospital staff as "heroes" & affirming courageous behaviors like showing up for work. For the remote-working, protected administrators, fact were indisputable facts. Short of mowing down the signs I made no figurative dent in the prevailing "reality".

Your Axiom Examples & Pattern Identifiers have been helpful (for me). Gentle requests for clarification barely put a dent in most of my family, friends & associates. The longevity of my confrontational, impatient "style" hasn't optimally positioned me to credibly try new approaches! I, however, find it fortifying and clarifying to mindfully watch for BS tactics before reacting.

One final thought, perhaps off-topic: I was taught to translate shorthand descriptors into phenomenological communications. It was as basic as, for example, "The patient is sleeping" vs "The patient is in bed, recumbent and not moving" (which could mean deceased if "regular respirations" isn't added). Another might be, "The patient was violent" vs "The patient was screaming threats with a knife in hand moving toward others and ...") Likewise, consumers (in this case patients) who'd say, "I'm depressed" would be asked to flesh out what they meant by "depressed". The same was useful for people who'd say, "I'm suicidal", which conveys little about the perspectives that drive toward despair, rage, revenge or whatever outcome they sought.

Thank you, Peter, for working so diligently on your readers' enlightenment. What else is there for us to do in the traffic insane pace of our information superhighway except to slide out of the passing lane and avoid getting rear ended in the breakdown lane? Off ramps!

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Frank Miscione's avatar

I lost quite a few 'friends' during the Covid pandemic and then made new ones!

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